If the idea of messaging someone you don’t know makes your stomach flip a little… you're not alone.

A lot of thoughtful, genuine women feel weird about reaching out online.

You might wonder:

• Am I bothering them?
• What if they think I’m being pushy?
• Do I even know what to say?

That’s completely normal. Especially if being online isn’t your favorite thing — or if you’d much rather talk in person over coffee than send a cold message on Instagram.

The truth? You don’t need to turn into someone you’re not to grow your business.

You just need a kinder, more you-ish way to connect.

Let’s walk through it together.

Why It Feels So Awkward Sometimes

Most of us were raised not to talk to strangers, right?

Now suddenly social media is full of advice like:

“Message 10 new people a day!”

“Make new friends in the DMs!”

“Engage! Network! Pitch!”

It’s enough to make anyone cringe.

And if you’ve ever received a random message that felt robotic or salesy, you probably thought, “I never want to sound like that.”

Good news? You don’t have to.

What Works Better: Think Connection, Not Conversion

Instead of thinking, “I need to get something from this person,” try shifting to:

“How can I make this feel like a real conversation?”

That tiny mindset change makes all the difference.

You’re not reaching out to pitch something — you’re starting a conversation with kindness, curiosity, and a little humanity.

So… What Do You Say?

Start simple. No need for scripts or clever lines.

Try messages like:

“Hi! I saw your comment and just wanted to say I loved what you shared.”

“I noticed we both follow [mutual friend/page] — your post made me smile!”

“I’ve been loving your content lately — just wanted to say hi!”

You’re not being weird. You’re just being kind.

And often, that’s what people remember most.

Helpful Tip: Be Genuinely Curious

Ask questions you actually care about. Things like:

“What inspired you to start what you’re doing?”

“Do you have a favorite [product/topic] right now?”

“What’s one thing that’s lighting you up this week?”

When you’re curious, it takes the pressure off. You’re not trying to impress — you’re just getting to know someone.

And that opens the door to real relationships… not just surface-level likes.

But What If They Don’t Respond?

Sometimes they won’t. And that’s okay.

It’s not personal — people are busy, distracted, or maybe just not ready to chat.

The important thing is: you showed up with heart.

And that is never wasted effort.

A Kinder Way to Grow

You don’t need to copy-paste cold messages.

You don’t have to be the loudest in the room.

And you definitely don’t have to change who you are.

You can grow your presence online simply by:

• Being warm and approachable
• Starting small, real conversations
• Letting people feel seen — not sold to

Because people aren’t looking for perfect.

They’re looking for human. And you already are that.

So yes, it might feel weird at first. But with practice, it gets easier.

And soon? It might just feel like chatting with new friends.

Which, really, is what this is all about 💛

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